Marriage Monday

I have been following Kirsten from Pure Joy for a few days now and I really love the idea behind Marriage Monday so I wanted to participate.
Being married for 36 years has taught me a little about what works and what doesn't work in a marriage....The big one being when i need to talk i need to keep my emotions out of it and talk about s the facts as i see them...this means keeping words like you, always, never and to include words like i, me, i feel...this keeps it from sounding like an attack and more like wanting to understand the situation.